You don't have to keep holding it all together.
EMDR Therapist in California for Perfectionism, People Pleasing & Postpartum Anxiety
You look like you’re doing fine.
But you’re exhausted from holding it all together.
You overthink everything.
You worry about disappointing people. You replay conversations. You struggle to say no. You put everyone else first and then wonder why you feel so depleted.
Maybe you’re successful, capable, and the person everyone counts on.
But you don’t feel calm. You don’t feel free. And you’re tired of being so hard on yourself.
You don't have to keep living this way.
EMDR therapy can help you work through the experiences underneath these patterns, so you can feel safer to express yourself, quieter in your mind, and more present in your life.
You know you’re safe.
So why doesn’t it feel that way?
You may understand your anxiety.
You may know that you don't have to be perfect. You may even know that other people's feelings aren't your responsibility.
But knowing something doesn't always change how your body responds.
Sometimes the part of you that overthinks, people pleases, or tries to get everything right is simply trying to protect you.
Therapy can help you understand those patterns and begin to let them go.
Maybe you want to:Stop second-guessing yourself
Set boundaries without the guilt
Feel less anxious and overwhelmed
Quiet the constant overthinking
Stop feeling responsible for everyone else
Feel worthy without having to earn it
Trust yourself again
The goal isn't to care less.
It's to stop abandoning yourself in the process of caring for everyone else.
You don't have to become a different person.
Hi, I'm Emily.
I'm a therapist who believes you shouldn't have to spend your life fighting against yourself.
I work with adults, teens, and couples who are navigating anxiety, perfectionism, people-pleasing, trauma, pregnancy and postpartum concerns, new parenthood, and the complicated feelings that can come with major life transitions.
My approach combines EMDR with talk therapy, attachment-based work, and a compassionate, individualized understanding of what you're going through.
You don't have to have everything figured out before you come to therapy.
You just have to be willing to start.
EMDR therapy for what still feels unresolved.
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is an evidence-based therapy that helps process traumatic and distressing experiences that may still be affecting you today.
You don't have to relive everything or have a perfectly clear explanation for why you feel the way you do.
We'll go at a pace that feels right for you, creating safety and stability before beginning EMDR reprocessing.
You can remember what happened without feeling trapped by it.
Perfectionism. People pleasing. Anxiety. Parenthood. Trauma.
You may have spent years being the responsible one, the strong one, the easy one.
Maybe becoming a parent made old fears louder. Maybe pregnancy or birth brought experiences you weren't prepared for. Maybe you've realized that the way you've always coped isn't working anymore.
You deserve support, too.
Therapy can help you feel more grounded, connected, and like yourself again.
For the person who is always taking care of everyone else.
Frequently Asked Questions
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No. EMDR does involve identifying important aspects of an experience, but it does not require you to repeatedly describe every detail of a traumatic event. Your therapist will help you work at a pace that feels manageable and appropriate for you.
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That's okay. You don't need to arrive knowing exactly what the problem is or which experience caused it. Part of the therapeutic process is understanding how your current symptoms, beliefs, and experiences may be connected.
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There isn't one timeline that works for everyone. Treatment length witll depend on on your history, needs, and goals.
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Not necessarily. EMDR therapy includes multiple phases, beginning with history-taking, treatment planning, preparation, and developing the skills needed to manage distress. Reprocessing happens when you and your therapist determine you're ready.
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That's completely understandable. You don't have to know exactly what to say. You don't have to be certain therapy will work. And you don't have to commit to anything during a consultation.
You can simply start with a conversation and see how it feels.
You don't have to figure this out alone.
Choosing a therapist is personal.
Let's start with a conversation.
I offer a free 15-minute consultation where we can talk about what's bringing you in, what you hope will change, and whether we're a good fit.
No pressure. No performance. Just a place to begin.